This is a recent revelation for me. Now that my daughter is an age that she can do things and I can teach her stuff. I can start involving her in the things that make me happy.
Of course she makes me happy and family life in general is amazing but there are parts of parenting a newborn that kinda suck. Yeah they’re super transportable and will sleep anywhere but it’s only now I feel I’m fathering my way.
I have to be honest some parents used to intimidate me. My daughter’s Godfather intimated me even before he was a father himself. He’s a teacher and talked about building rockets and maths games. I could try and make myself do these things but why don’t I do other things that I love, that I’m good at?
Chasing things to do outside and in the wilderness, adventures and outdoor pursuits, from cycling to surfing – that is what I can give 100% to and with passion.
I recently read Alistair Humphrey’s book Ten Lessons from the Road. He’s a big dreamer, but a dreamer that acts on it, bucks the trend and leads the life he wants to lead. He asks, “What do you want to achieve with your life?” And “What would be written on your gravestone?”. It’s a very inspiring book and one you can read in one go and then pick up again and again and remind yourself of the little inspiring tid bits. As a parent we don’t quite have the freedom to take off on solo adventures. But we can involve them, we can take them with us. In fact, it’s making me look at the world with a child-like wonder.
So I pledge: Less overcrowded play parks on a Saturday. No hellish soft play. No DVD on a sunny day.
I pledge: More forests. More beaches. More mountains.
I think I’ve found something I can parent with passion about. Certainly for me, I think this makes me parent better and less lazily. Now is the time to do it. Before they start getting their own ideas and drag you round to watch them fence or curl every weekend.
What makes you happy that you could involve your kids in?